Food is NOT Love

Do you find you forget your problem temporarily when eating comfort food? Realise this right now!

Some people use food, whether consciously or unconsciously, to numb their minds so that they won’t have to deal with the issues they’d rather not confront.  I describe this altered state of mind where food transports us as a “food high,” something I’ll expand upon later.  It’s a very important factor in the story of eating behavior issues.

Can you think of a better way to deal with your problems? Do you ever go for a walk to let your mind process the alternatives? Do you know how to relax and breathe more deeply? Do you know how to calm yourself from the fears that the problems will somehow overwhelm you? Have you ever learned to meditate? We’ve got so many ways to master the knee-jerk food response to overeating. Relaxing is one of the most effective! Take a moment every hour to relax your neck and shoulders and breathe a little more deeply. It work

Check if food has become your love substitute

If you overeat when you feel distress in order to change your state of mind, then food has become your substitute for the state of blissful comfort that babies feel when being nurtured and fed.  That’s the unconscious origin of the urge to overeat and it’s as primal as can be.  In psychological terms, food has become a love object.

Turn your love firstly towards yourself to accept yourself completely and without judgement. Learn to appreciate others too. Extend the warmth of your love from your own heart to the lives of everyone around you. You’ll feel the difference immediately and tame the urge to stuff yourself with toxic comfort food

Do you find it really difficult to turn away from your favourite comfort food?

Separating you from your food is like yanking the child away from the delightful cocoon of nurturing and feeding, destroying your private, secret sanctuary and exposing you to the unending turmoil of life.  No wonder you hold onto your emotional eating patterns with such tenacity – the alternative is too scary and fearful.  Suddenly our eating habits begin to make perfect sense!

That’s why it’s time to introduce a measure of control into the habit. If the prospect of giving up such an important source of comfort is too daunting, make a deal with yourself to cut back. That’s right. Agree in advance exactly how much you will allow yourself and write down the amount. This is a contract. When you hit the limit, write down what happened. If you don’t feel like the garbage treat on any particular day, make a note of it and describe how you were feeling. Keep your word. Respect that agreement. You’re on your way to much, much better things!